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[papa_lazarou]

Well It took me a while to read everything you have all said but here is my view

Tattoo: I havent got oone yet for these reasons
 
- I'm not old enough
- They cost alot to get a decent one
- I dont like needles
- Havent picked a design I know I would not hate for the rest of my life
But I have chosen a spot
It would be on my right arm


Now raising boys:
I was a fucking terror.
I skipped School alot
I had a huge anger problem and smashed things up and if my brother annoyed me (which was very easy) he would get it if my mum didn't interfere
I didnt smoke though or anything else
I was still smart for my age then but really immature. I found school work boring.


I think what changed me was that you eventually grow out of it and a firm hand with boys is probably necessary.
But do not lose control on how firm you are.. I know I will probably never forget or forgive some of the rough treatment I got from the men in my mums life.

But as I said guys only have a 3 years ish
I only started drinking after all my pish was over and cause of that my mum know I went out and when I knew she knew. She let me bring drink into the house and sit with it on the pc or watching tv. She has given me alot of trust with my nights out and I can put my hand on heart and honest to god say I have not let her down. I have never drunk to excess and never done drugs of any sort

Girls:

As my family has 2 guys... I say that in the lightest term cause it would not surprise me if my brother was gay and we have 1 girl
My sister has just turned 13 but you can tell she has hit teenager with all her moods.
My mum has decided to ground her everytime she does something wrong
but i dont think my mum spends enough time talking to her.
which as everyone says is probably best.

[Gator]

The teenager made a fatal error today and everything has come crashing down on her.

She and her friends write notes to each other in class. Mostly blah blah teenage stuff - "school is boring" etc etc. I found one though where she discussed moi in not very glowing terms and I have nailed her on it. This comes on top of finding an uncompleted assignment ("Nah I don't have any homework"). getting not one but TWO disciplinary letters from her school that she had intercepted from the mail, finding ANOTHER disciplinary letter stashed today, having her on a 10 day Individual Behaviour Plan when she goes back to school because she wouldn't take a gobstopper out of her mouth in class (very bright child I have) and just generally being a complete and utter 14 yo WITCH.

New rules:

I will show respect to my parents and teachers.

I will do as I am told when I am told.

I will do my class work in class and I will NOT pass notes in class.

I will NOT smoke. EVER.

I will not backchat to my parents and teachers. I will not SWEAR in the presence of my parents or teachers.

I will do school assignments as they are given to me and I will hand them in ON TIME without exception.

I will not be absent from school without permission. EVER.

I will not give reason on ANY occasion for my school to contact my parents about my behaviour at school.

I will do chores and homework when I get home from school FIRST in the afternoon.

I will not be allowed online until such chores and homework are completed to my parents’ satisfaction.

I will not take my computer to bed with me on a school night.

I will be allowed to stay up until 9:30 each night on a school night and to midnight on a weekend night (Friday/Saturday).

I will keep my room free of rubbish on the floor and dispose of dishes daily to the kitchen.

I will wear my school shirt to school unless I have permission to do otherwise.

I will NOT collect mail in the afternoons to head off notices from my school. The mail is no longer my business.

I have read all the above rules and agree to abide by them. Should I break any of the above rules, I accept that a grounding of one week will apply for each infraction. This grounding will involve the loss of computer and TV access for that week.

I pointed out to her that it was pretty sad that I had to put in writing things that normal people regard as civilised behaviour.

She's signed off on it. She has an assignment to do tomorrow. It's die when she goes back to school.

This is part of the reason why I am not here. She occupies nearly my entire time.

Back to it.

[Ctulu]

damnit girl ...  hang in there!

[Gator]

An update.

The rules are firmly in place. They are being obeyed. Not because they are the rules but because she has decided that all the crap that she has to go through if she breaks them just isn't worth the grief. She's settled down at school again, she gives me a hug when I walk in of an evening and she put in a class assignment on self-evaluation that the key to keeping the family peace was to keep me happy. I told her that was very insightful.

Now for today's episode ...

She was off school yesterday. Sick with a nasty head cold. I was looking for tissues for her to take to school this morning. Out of her drawers in the wardrobe came a total of 3 vodka cruiser bottles and 3 x 750 ml bottles of Passion Pop. She' not my daughter. She has absolutely NO TASTE in booze.

*sigh*

She's at school doing exams today. She's finally twigged that they MATTER. She asked if she could stay home again today. I told her if she did that then her whole mark would be based on class assessment. She chose to do the exam.

I think she's finally growing up. A little.

[Wooster]

I think she's finally growing up. A little.

I has to happen sooner or later..

[keasy]

Later. took me 30 yrs and the arrival of my first kid to finally grow up.   

[Wooster]

Never happened to me yet...I'm waiting until my first heart attack..

[Thermalsig]

I'm glad things are heading up for you and you're daughter Gator. I know I was a very serious hell raiser, but my parents were usually too farked up to notice. I'm still surprised I'm not dead or in jail. I actually believe Hallcat was my life saver. I was headed down the wrong path and my whole life changed after I met her.

[Hallcat]

Anyone else think he's just too sweet?  We helped each other out along the way.  He gives me far too much credit.  He was ready for a change I was just the catalyst.  I was ready for a change too hence my seeking him out, rounding him up, and settling him down.  Love ya, Thermal, I appreciate your kind words.  You're really a great guy to spend the rest of my life with.

[Vasco]

ah isn't that sweet 

[AbaddonsFury]

ah isn't that sweet 

Yeah, Thermals making me all moist...

[Nivlac]

Those 2 are so sweet my teeth are hurting